Field Notes
Observations. Not advice.
What I notice — in sessions, on the road, in the middle of ordinary life. No conclusions. No advice. Just the thing worth paying attention to.
April 2026
Smart people are allergic to coaching.
Fair enough.
The category hasn’t always made it easy to say yes. There’s a lot out there that just doesn’t land.
I’d be allergic too.
The resistance usually isn’t about coaching.
It’s about what asking for help means.
At that level. In that world.
Where everyone’s watching.
March 2026
People love a retreat. A reset.
But what you really want is to hear yourself for a second.
Most people don’t need an escape.
They need a way to think clearly in the middle of their actual life.
Because “unplugging” becomes a bit of theatre if it only happens on holiday, at a retreat, or once you’re already fried.
Nice moments. Wrong mechanism.
The goal isn’t to disconnect more.
It’s to think without the need for a break.
I’m less into escapes. More into small pauses.
Tiny, ordinary pockets where you don’t get pulled.
Two minutes. Ten minutes. No drama.
Morning, midday, or evening — all three?
Jan 2026
The trap isn’t the job.
It’s being good at it.
Applause is a great salary.
It pays in certainty.
The competence cage is polite:
• it pays you on time
• it rewards consistency
• it quietly invoices you for change
Nothing is “wrong.”
Something’s just… overstaying.
Not burnout.
Not a breakdown.
Just the same week
in slightly different clothes.
And then: that small, unglamorous tug when
you see the next 365 days.
That thing you keep getting praised for…
that you secretly don’t want to repeat?
Feb 2026
Beginnings get applause.
Endings don’t.
Endings get quiet.
Last night, in Verona’s Arena — my adoptive hometown — I watched the Olympics close.
No fireworks. Just light.
Restraint, on purpose.
Same dynamic on smaller stages:
projects. roles. relationships.
In work (and life) it’s easy to be brilliant at starting.
But we don’t stop. We stall.
We drag things past their best-before date…
because “ending” feels like failure.
enough.
we’re done.
we can let this go.
Clean ending… or a long, drawn-out wait for what?
